What if, instead of feeling guilt over the fact that you're a human adult who likes to eat and drink certain things that may or may not be "healthy", you objectively looked at how those things could be a part of your diet without being the hinge upon which you're "on plan" or "off plan?"
Pay attention for a single day. What rituals/habits do you participate in that bring you a real sense of satisfaction? This doesn't have to be food-related, and it doesn't have to be Pinterest-y and woo-woo, either. Maybe it's your morning cup of coffee. Maybe it's the feeling of hopping into the shower after a long workday. Maybe it's a square of chocolate and a cup of tea before bed. Where could you create moments like this if you don't have any? What mindless habit could you work on giving up that would make space (be it time, energy, calories, money) for a moment of peace and clarity?
What if you could find a non-food-related response to success achieved, hard day ended, tragedy survived? What might that look like?
Most of us have a specific vision in mind when we consider our goal achieved - whether it's a way our body will be shaped or a task we'll be able to accomplish. Think about how you'll feel when you've achieved it? Will the method you took to get there be one you can maintain?
What if you designed your nutrition to fit your life instead of forcing your life to fit your nutrition?