When I first met you at the FUELhouse nutrition seminar, I was skeptical to say the least. Not because of anything you said, simply because I felt like I had tried everything and done a reasonably good job of educating myself and was seeing absolutely no results. Also, because I wasn’t coming into [Recharge] eating a bag of cheeseburgers every day, I was really unsure of how what seemed like small changes would really help. What I loved about what you were saying was that it seemed so simple – but that also make me hesitant. I had always felt like the only way that I’d make big changes was if I made BIG changes and tortured myself on a strict plan like every other cleanse/diet/regimen that I’d followed. Funny that they didn’t work, but I still thought that there was some magic formula and if you ate one extra apple (ok…being honest I probably mean cookie here) on a day with no carbs, you’d explode. You suggested a simple formula to think about at every meal and made it okay not to follow it strictly. I loved the idea that you presented immediately that it was your goal that at the end of 60 days, we didn’t feel like falling face first into a pizza, because that is how I’ve always felt when gutting it out at the end of a cleanse. One of my favorite parts of the experience was realizing that I didn’t actually know if we were just starting week 8 or if it was “over” because I’d already decided that there was no such thing as “over”.
[Since I started working with you and training at FUELhouse] I've lost 13 lbs and 5 inches around my waist, a pretty amazing start! But more specifically, I feel like I’ve made a gigantic step in the way I look at meals – especially when it comes to protein. It was certainly not the first time that I’d heard that I needed to eat more protein, but when I calculated how much protein you suggested I eat (2/3 my body weight in grams/day), I saw that number and thought there was no way I’d get there – especially not every day. So making that first shift was definitely the hardest. Thinking about figuring out how to get to that number, especially without eating mammals, was daunting. But once I realized I could do it and started seeing my body change, it got easier. Now I feel very much like it’s a part of how I eat without thinking about it. I look at every meal and menu differently and realize that just because I was not an “unhealthy” eater before, I am now eating in a way that is healthy and fuels me to accomplish my goals.
I love that you met me where I was at, even though that was a tough place. I basically told you that I’d give it a shot, but that I was doubtful that I’d see any great results based on my past trials and failures. I recognize that I was a tough cookie, because I felt like I had been doing most things right when it came to eating and working out, but that for whatever reason, my body was immune to my efforts. You asked me to trust you, but didn’t force anything on me. You were so incredibly supportive about every aspect of my journey. Instead of just telling me to start eating more meat for protein, you worked with me to find protein sources that I felt okay about making a regular part of my life. Instead of telling me to stop eating dessert, you helped me figure out that 3 squares of really delicious dark chocolate would help me more than hurt me and you made it ok for that to be a part of my life on a regular basis. You never pushed anything to the extreme and I never felt deprived. With your suggestions, there was always room to have a glass of wine or celebrate a special occasion with a few bites of really amazing desert. You gave me some flexibility to live a normal life, to still go out to eat and not have to tell people I was on some weird cleanse and having that was a huge part of the reason I felt what you taught was sustainable. The fact that I didn’t have to follow a strict plan is the primary reason that I felt like I was able to make a real and permanent switch in my eating habits. Now when I hear people tell me they are miserable because they’re on a diet, I feel sorry for them because I know it doesn’t have to be that way. I never once felt like I was on a “diet” – I only felt like you were trying to gently help me change my whole perspective…and you did.
Now - I am so grateful for your ongoing support. Even just being able to bounce my struggles with the Scandinavian Swimmers (ed. note LOL!!!!) that my boyfriend refuses to stop buying has been a great source of support. I really appreciate that you know my issues and my struggles and are willing to help me to still adjust things to continue to be successful.
I’d honestly recommend you to anyone – whether it was someone who had never even thought about trying to change or whether it was someone who felt they’d tried everything and had no success. Since I was in the second category, I know that you were able to help me there, but your approach is simple enough that I think anyone with an honest desire to change their eating habits would benefit from work with you. I think that the most important thing people should know is that you’re not going to tell them exactly what they can and can’t do. You’re not going to tell them exactly what to eat for every meal for 2 weeks and then just expect them to be “fixed”. You are going to meet them where they are and help them figure out how to make sustainable and long term changes and tweaks that will change the way they eat forever, but it’s not a “diet” and they shouldn’t expect that.
In the past, what I think I wanted someone to tell me exactly what to eat and figured there was a magic formula. But that didn’t work because I can’t always cook and sometimes I don’t have time to go to the grocery store – so your method allowed me to continue living my normal life but also making big changes in the types of foods I was choosing. It also allowed me to keep from “failing” – and not feeling like I was failing kept me from giving up. I would want to tell anyone that worked with you to TRUST YOU…that was hard for me, especially because I didn’t really see how eating so much more protein would actually help me to lose weight and inches, but you totally nailed it.
I am eternally grateful for not only the change that you and FUELhouse have brought in me, but for your patience and kindness during the process. I was so dubious that I would see real results – I’m still kind of shocked – so you had an uphill battle. Thank you for sticking with me, for encouraging me and for continuing to help me change. You absolutely and totally came into my life when I needed you most and I’m so very grateful to know you!